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3 Tips To Raising A Happy Confident Girl

3 Tips To Raising A Happy Confident Girl

Ladies, if you’re anything like me, you have the mind of an elephant and can remember everything about being a little girl.

Take a second and think back to a moment in your childhood, any moment, what stands out to you about how you felt? Now take those feelings and compare them to how you would feel now should those emotions or set of circumstances come back to you today, how would you handle it? You can argue that “Well, I’m an adult now, so yes, I, of course, would respond differently than the 5-year-old me would” and there is truth to that, we do learn and grow as time passes. But what if I said, a bit of your inner 5-year-old is still there in every answer, emotion or mood, and that you are a complete product of the primary adult role model you had in your life growing up.

We all have a different story. Some better or harder than others but we all have one thing in common today and that is being the best example we can be for our daughters. That's it. Nothing complicated.

Lucky for you, Mama Bear, this won't require a last-minute trip to Target to gather supplies, you have everything you need right inside of you because some of the best tools are invisible.

1. Know Your Impact

Do you ever say something and instantly think, "Wow, I'm turning into my mom"? That's no coincidence. From the second we were born our subconscious and self-worth were being formed. Our mothers had (and still do) a huge impact on who we are today.

Whether it's in a big situation or something as little as trying on a dress, always remember that two little eyes and ears are watching and listening, storing and learning by example. Let your impact be beautiful and empowering.

2. Praise The Imperfections

We don't live in a perfect world and although media and life, in general, push this culture of striving for perfection, we should always take time to appreciate the flaws.

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with setting high goals and reaching them but what happens when you inevitably don't reach a goal or you fall short somehow, how do you handle it? Life is a series of victories and stumbles, there is a beauty in the imperfections and hiccups of life. Instilling this type of mindset or approach into your daughters at a young age can help alleviate anxiety and build a happy and resilient spirit.

3. Social confidence

Teach them that their voice matters. The old saying "Kids are better left unheard" rings true when you're trying to enjoy dinner at a restaurant and the family next door sounds like a circus but what about when your daughter is faced with a challenge or a situation where not only her ability to "speak up" comes up but also the self-worth feelings I talked about above are thrown into the mix, she needs to know her feelings and words matter.

Happiness is learned at the home, with every hug, smile, or joke that is used to offset a negative situation, perspective is everything and you are the example.

3 Parental Life Hacks

3 Parental Life Hacks

90% of parenting is thinking about when you can lie down again.

As a parent, it's easy to get down on yourself. The laundry is full, dinner isn't made, the "kids look tired and it's all my fault!" Whenever you think you're the only one looking to pull your hair out, you're not. 

I remember as a kid, my mom who was a single parent lived on structure, without it, she would have gone mad. Not to say she didn't stumble every now and again, we're only human. Even before "life hacks" was a thing, she was doing little things to make her life a little easier, for example: weekly meal calendars and prepping outfits the night before. We all have our own little tricks but I think we can all agree we could always use a little more :)

Below are some hacks that are sure to make you think "why didn't I think of that!" Enjoy my fellow parents! And remember, Jesus blessed you with these little babies, just breathe and pray. Sooner rather than later, you will wish they were little again. 

Screen time
Who's experienced your kiddo lose it when you attempt to take the device away or turn the tv off early? Limit TV/Device time by starting shows in the middle. Most kids aren't really concerned about the story line. 

Potty Training
This can be one of the most challenging experiences out there. Even as an adult toilet paper rolls can be challenging (sadly) i.e. the roll rolls a little too much, finding the tear on a new roll, etc. Imagine being a kid and taking that challenge on?! Make it easy by placing a tissue box next to their shrine, this will make it easier for them to grab portioned perfectly pieces of tissue.

Shopping
How many of us sprint past the toy isle at our local store, raise your hand (hand raised). To avoid tears and heartache, have your kiddo snap a photo of each of the their dream toys and "send them to Santa." This way you have a phone full of Christmas gift ideas and the kids are left feeling hopeful and happy.