Ladies, if you’re anything like me, you have the mind of an elephant and can remember everything about being a little girl.
Take a second and think back to a moment in your childhood, any moment, what stands out to you about how you felt? Now take those feelings and compare them to how you would feel now should those emotions or set of circumstances come back to you today, how would you handle it? You can argue that “Well, I’m an adult now, so yes, I, of course, would respond differently than the 5-year-old me would” and there is truth to that, we do learn and grow as time passes. But what if I said, a bit of your inner 5-year-old is still there in every answer, emotion or mood, and that you are a complete product of the primary adult role model you had in your life growing up.
We all have a different story. Some better or harder than others but we all have one thing in common today and that is being the best example we can be for our daughters. That's it. Nothing complicated.
Lucky for you, Mama Bear, this won't require a last-minute trip to Target to gather supplies, you have everything you need right inside of you because some of the best tools are invisible.
1. Know Your Impact
Do you ever say something and instantly think, "Wow, I'm turning into my mom"? That's no coincidence. From the second we were born our subconscious and self-worth were being formed. Our mothers had (and still do) a huge impact on who we are today.
Whether it's in a big situation or something as little as trying on a dress, always remember that two little eyes and ears are watching and listening, storing and learning by example. Let your impact be beautiful and empowering.
2. Praise The Imperfections
We don't live in a perfect world and although media and life, in general, push this culture of striving for perfection, we should always take time to appreciate the flaws.
Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with setting high goals and reaching them but what happens when you inevitably don't reach a goal or you fall short somehow, how do you handle it? Life is a series of victories and stumbles, there is a beauty in the imperfections and hiccups of life. Instilling this type of mindset or approach into your daughters at a young age can help alleviate anxiety and build a happy and resilient spirit.
3. Social confidence
Teach them that their voice matters. The old saying "Kids are better left unheard" rings true when you're trying to enjoy dinner at a restaurant and the family next door sounds like a circus but what about when your daughter is faced with a challenge or a situation where not only her ability to "speak up" comes up but also the self-worth feelings I talked about above are thrown into the mix, she needs to know her feelings and words matter.
Happiness is learned at the home, with every hug, smile, or joke that is used to offset a negative situation, perspective is everything and you are the example.