Parental love is the only love that is truly selfless, unconditional and forgiving.

–Dr T.P.Chia

Do you ever lye in bed some mornings staring at the ceiling and think to yourself, “I need to do this all over again?” If you answered, Yes, congratulations! You are now a part of the unofficial Realistic Parenting Club. We all know parenting isn’t easy, it can be thankless, messy, and leave us with a feeling that we aren’t doing enough. With social media, reality TV shows, and so much exposure to what we think looks like perfect parenting, we’re automatically thrown into this mindset that we need to reflect what we see in order to be a good parent but I’m here to bring the good news – THOSE ARE LIES.

Perfect parenting is an unattainable dream that will only leave us drained and feeling less then <— and that goes against what God wants for us. His plans are for us, not against us. You were blessed with this wonderful little human being(s) who I’m sure think the world of you. Below are some things to remind yourself of the next time you feel the negativity creeping in to your day. It won’t happen overnight but with daily prayer and positive thinking, you can bring some peace back into your busy mind.

1. Our failures, weaknesses, and sins are not who we are.

OK, so you sometimes hide in the bathroom for a little quiet time or you lost your temper in the drive-thru window…IT’S OK. You’re not alone and no one is perfect. Remember, even the perfect Youtube mom your kids watch online has her days too.

2. It is the sum of days not just today that shape your kids.

Everybody has an off day now and then but it is the whole sum of a childhood that makes a kid who they are – not one bad day. Dust yourself off!

3. Those visions in your head of everyone else’s house being cleaner than yours

Homes come in all shapes, sizes, and yes, smells. What makes a home is the family living inside. Maybe you don’t dust as much as your friend in church group or you may ask yourself how the dad of three at soccer seems to always be smiling and not frazzled, truth is that everyone parents differently. Comparing yourself to someone else will never get you to the place you want to be. Except your style and your crazy because God made you exactly the way he envisioned you. We can all use improvement in different areas, keep praying and keep striving.

The way you care about your children is the way God cares about you. He doesn’t want you to be stressed out, feeling like a failure, or constantly chasing something that you will never be able to reach (perfection). God wants us to be happy with where we are and with what we have. The beauty is in the journey.