Parenting is one of the most rewarding jobs on this planet. You have the opportunity to mold this wonderful little human.
Every now and again I like to sit back and reflect on some of the the wonderful milestones my child has had: cub scout awards, their first tooth, learning to ride a bike, and the list goes on. It's so funny how as a parent you truly do see the world in a totally different light, to you what was once a mundane task is now the highlight to your day. All it takes is a smile on their little face and a twinkle in their eye to make your heart melt.
That's the beauty about kids. The world is their oyster, full of love and new things. But what happens when certain life events fall into your life and inevitably theirs, and you have to face the hard task of explaining a difficult situation to them in a way that they will understand?
Finding the strength and right words can be difficult, but it isn't the only step in introducing a life event that will affect your life as well as their own. Below are some ways to gently explain and nurture the reaction of your child after a difficult situation rises in your family.
This is probably the most important step in anything! God is so good. He is perfect. Send your worries and concerns to him. He's got it covered even when you think you don't.
Answer your child's questions
Children need the opportunity to talk about their feelings with each other and with adults. It is important that you have your own feelings and thoughts straight. Think not only about what you want to say, but also about how you want it to come across. Always be thoughtful and honest.
Unlike adults, children have not yet had the opportunity to work through feelings, especially hard ones. This is why it is important to let them know that it is OK to feel what they are feeling. Share your own feelings in a way that they will understand and will help them feel like they are not alone. One of the best things you can teach your child is the ability to cope and send it all to God.
Offer the comfort that they need. Give lots of hugs, spend time together, and show them that life goes on and things do get better with time.
Break it down in child terms
It may make perfect sense to you but not necessarily to them. Every child is different and requires words/explanations that make sense to them.
Check for signs of stress
Every child is unique in how they handle stress. Some are vocal and some tend to withdraw. Here some signs to look for if you suspect your child isn't coping well: changes in eating, anxiety, crying a lot, bad dreams, feeling sick, aggressive behavior, etc.